After a busy working day, you get to the house and as bored as you are, you feel being quickened. A look on your right is your partner. You jump unto him but his reaction is opposite that you experience on other times.
It quickly turns a knob in your brain. You begin wondering if your partner has no feelings for you again, or probably he is angry at something you might have done…
How hard and hurtful it feels…
Your partner is not angry at you! Your partner still feels the same way as he met you for the first time. Why then is he reacting differently?
The answer is, you are a victim of the famous psychology theory FAtE- Fundamental Attribution Error.
This theory unfurls how we humans give personality-based explanations for other people’s behaviour more than situational errors.
In otherwords, we tend to assume the way people treat us is a reflection of how they feel about us. But much of time, this assumption is comprehensively wrong.
In the above scenario, your partner may seem distracted. In fact, he is distracted. And all it means, in another way, is that you are not always the centre of his universe.
That doesnt mean your partner doesnt care so much about you, but that he thinks about other stuffs as well.
How then do we overcome this?
Accept what you can’t change
Accepting that it is a normal occurrence in life tends to safe us from such emotional worries. It is amazing to know that even the coiner of this theory more often suffers this theory too.
Never beat yourself up when you are faced with such situations. Accept that it is normal, and guys even impassively experience such things too.
Cross-check your assumptions
If you feel you have had a less-than-perfect talk with your partner, sometimes, asking your partner about their situation may lessen your emotional burden and save you from emotional derangements.
Accept that it is normal and bound to happen in lifetime.